Are you an adult child of a narcissistic mother? Do you suspect your mother has Narcissistic Personality Disorder?
Caroline Foster, an experienced life coach, will lead you into a painful path of awareness, but she will also give you concrete advice on how to handle your toxic mother and change your life for the better.
If you read this book:
You will discover all the reasons why your childhood was so traumatic. You will learn how to handle your narcissistic mother. You will discover all of the dysfunctional beliefs and habits that you developed during your childhood. You will learn how to contrast Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder symptoms.
The issue of toxic mothers undeniably challenges the status quo in various ways, but most certainly needs to be addressed. Adult children of narcissistic parents are often plagued with such an abundance of guilt and sense of deep obligation and shame that it causes them to feel duty-bound to keep whatever happened in the family secret, even when it is destroying their lives. It’s really difficult to share your experience in this case, because narcissists, and especially a narcissistic mother, can be very good at creating the perfect family image for outsiders looking in.
The solution is not forgiving or forgetting. You should understand your situation and work on your self-development in order to take back control of your life.
Startling revelations considering they match identical events that have taken place.
For example; last Christmas, my mother called a family meeting to complain and point her finger.
In this book, it states that a narcissistic mother does exactly that - "to create drama".
Therapy is recommended as such that you should find a therapist who is familiar with narcissism = important! You don't want some amateur shrink blaming YOU for her wild behaviors. Good luck.
One wife
And now one DIL who uses my 4yo grandson as a weapon. Will never see him again, because I tore the bandaid off 2022 Christmas when I saw how she used depression to her her way. Thanks for the verification of what I suspected all along Narcissism is real and it’s absolutely evil
The only piece missing is how to speak to flying monkeys so that they wake up to their delusions. The Mother Worship Fallacy you mention at the outset is ingrained and needs to be smacked out of many people’s consciousness lest they perpetuate the gaslighting and crazy-making of the narcissist.
I had no idea narcissistic abuse was a real thing until recently when I finally cut my mother out of my life. She crossed a boundary I set regarding my son, which was the final straw, yet I still had a boulder of GUILT weighing me down about my decision. This book reassured me that I did the RIGHT thing, which you will find out by reading. The author lists types of narcissistic mothers as well as what each child is (the golden child, the scapegoat, and the lost child) and goes into detail what's in store for each title given.
I highly recommend this book, especially if you are still in the learning process of this type of abuse. I was uneducated, began reading it, and that's when my emotions (which I began to think I was defective in that department) surfaced after so long being weighed down in this sea of doubt, self-loathing, and loneliness. This book actually made me realize growing up that I attracted narcissistic people to me. My best friend in school as well as my first relationship were with narcissists that it left me overwhelmed with emotion realizing this. I'm still a work in progress, but this book has helped me begin my journey to recovery from this kind of abuse. It will be a long road, but now that I have the knowledge, I think I'll be okay now. Thank you for writing this book! May this book help educate and start the recovery process for anyone else in the same boat.