Healing the Adult Children of Narcissists: Essays on The Invisible War Zone and Exercises for Recovery

13 reviews for Healing the Adult Children of Narcissists: Essays on The Invisible War Zone and Exercises for Recovery

1. Happy customer

   Rated 4 out of 5

   February 19, 2024

   4.0 out of 5 stars Great book

   Love this book has helped me a lot

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   AMoore

   Rated 5 out of 5

   October 25, 2023

   5.0 out of 5 stars One of the best books on narcissism I've read

   I've read quite a few books on NPD after wasting a decade of my life with one and this book really helped me understand how being raised by an abusive...More

   I've read quite a few books on NPD after wasting a decade of my life with one and this book really helped me understand how being raised by an abusive narcissistic mother shaped me to be the a-hole magnet that I've been in life. I especially liked the section on self-sabotage.
   I highly recommend this book to anyone who had selfish parents!
   The author has a really great way of phrasing things that really articulates what it's like to grow up with a narcissist in a way that other authors have not quite captured for me. So even though I knew most of the information in it, she phrased it in a way that made me think about those concepts very differently.
   I am planning on reading the entire thing again after I have some time to let it settle in and then working through the exercises at the end.

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   El Ayachi HADEK

   Rated 5 out of 5

   July 9, 2023

   This book is a miracle

   It covers all aspects of the victims trap. I send you love and gratitude for using your inherited perfection to help us going through this malicious t...More

   It covers all aspects of the victims trap. I send you love and gratitude for using your inherited perfection to help us going through this malicious trap!

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   L Bond

   Rated 5 out of 5

   May 2, 2023

   Very helpful

   An excellent resource that is easy to understand and apply

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   Carter

   Rated 5 out of 5

   April 2, 2023

   5.0 out of 5 stars When your childhood was a horror story - read this book

   This is the only book to ever explain my childhood (in the 60's) perfectly. I've spent decades trying to understand and stop doing things that are hur...More

   This is the only book to ever explain my childhood (in the 60's) perfectly. I've spent decades trying to understand and stop doing things that are hurtful, because I didn't understand where those things came from. The pain and trauma are lifelong and it's only in the past decade that there has been research and help is finally available. This author gives the tools to set us free from the pain and turmoil that were experienced long before we had a vocabulary to explain what happened to us.
   
   This is a must read for adult children of abusive parents of any description.

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   Cynthia T

   Rated 5 out of 5

   March 17, 2023

   5.0 out of 5 stars Outstanding read!

   I got so much information out of this book as to how I was operating in my adult life as a result of the abuse I suffered at the hands of my parents a...More

   I got so much information out of this book as to how I was operating in my adult life as a result of the abuse I suffered at the hands of my parents and former friends. I found out the why behind why I think certain ways and act certain ways. OMG, a must read for survivors.

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   janice

   Rated 5 out of 5

   March 14, 2023

   5.0 out of 5 stars Superb connection

   You would think the written was your confidante or invisible monitor, as if she was their noting your experiences and how you felt. You'll know someo...More

   You would think the written was your confidante or invisible monitor, as if she was their noting your experiences and how you felt. You'll know someone else understand you.

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   Just love this set. So pretty.

   Rated 5 out of 5

   February 23, 2023

   Healing

   A challenging read but great insights and a great tool for healing.

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   Helen J ODonnell

   Rated 5 out of 5

   December 11, 2022

   5.0 out of 5 stars Very Informative

   I thought I knew all about Narcissism but I find this book to be very helpful in organizing the info. It was recommended to me by a very knowledgeable...More

   I thought I knew all about Narcissism but I find this book to be very helpful in organizing the info. It was recommended to me by a very knowledgeable individual on the subject. Very well-written. I'm glad to add this to my library.

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   Ksenía

   Rated 5 out of 5

   November 8, 2022

   5.0 out of 5 stars I’m glad I stumbled across this book.

   I stumbled across this book by chance. And I’m glad. I recommend it to anyone trying to spread their beautiful wings and break free from the false fee...More

   I stumbled across this book by chance. And I’m glad. I recommend it to anyone trying to spread their beautiful wings and break free from the false feeling of guilt, shame, self-blame, unworthiness, etc.
   It might help you understand if the root of your misfortunes and mental burden is hidden deep in your childhood, and learn about your superpowers. Do you have people in your life who instead of lifting you up, downgrade you? Do you feel that you have to constantly prove that you are worthy? Good news—you are worthy! Read the book if that’s your case. It will help you spot the signs of narcissism and give you “the power to observe the toxic actions of others from a detached perspective. When we are allowed to observe the chaos from a place of calm observation, we can then better look for solutions rather than continuing to feed into the problem.”
   
   The author highlights the necessity to set healthy boundaries with mentally immature parents, and sometimes even to say “goodbye” to protect your physical, emotional, psychological, and social well-being. I agree with her message to not allow hate and evil thoughts make your heart bitter. Whatever you have been through, be more self-compassionate, and show compassion to others, because God is love, and you are His child, and you must honor what honors God. And this theme is much better covered in the book “Good Boundaries and Goodbyes” by Lysa Terkeurs —I sincerely recommend it!
   
   “But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven.” Christ Jesus, Lord and Savior

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   M.O.

   Rated 5 out of 5

   May 9, 2022

   Excellent

   The most valuable book - by far - that I have read about narcissistic abuse by a parent (specifically)

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   Mandana Honors

   Rated 5 out of 5

   November 19, 2021

   5.0 out of 5 stars Gamechanger

   This will be a book I will pour over again and again. It's like someone else wrote my autobiography for me.

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   tamsin64

   Rated 5 out of 5

   February 22, 2020

   Best book on narcissism

   This is easily the best book I have read about narcissistic abuse- and I have read a lot! Having been abused in every way by both of my parents and th...More

   This is easily the best book I have read about narcissistic abuse- and I have read a lot! Having been abused in every way by both of my parents and then ended up in a 30 year toxic marriage this book explores both of those aspects and shows so clearly how one can lead to the other. Very clearly written with many useful links and examples. Now giving it to my daughter who is just starting to work on issues caused by her narcissistic father. Highly recommended.

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